Refraction on a door.To and fro-III

Another friend chews on To and fro-II

TO:
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'over time, we close more doors and focus on those which are most important to us, until the inevitable narrowing at the end'... 'the point is not to attach too much meaning to the form of the door'.... quite an intriguing revelation... and i was thinking the other way round...

if it can become "narrowing" there should be an alternate way of broadening also...towards..something..where u no more feel the existence of any doors..closed or open.... does the sky have any opening to enter?...it is all open...and contains the emptyness... within..or without..
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and

FRO:
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I have the perfect reply in a CD somewhere,it's something about a fish.
till the evening though,this will have to do :)

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reflecting on a door.To and fro-II

TO:
'I was just thinking that our lives are a set of doors ..When you're young, all doors are potentially open. We try to identify our talents and interests, make educational and professional choices, find our ways into our emotional and sexual maturity — in this process we open some doors and close off others.
At some point, if we a bit lucky and a bit successful, we reach a place in our life where those choices are largely in place and we are doing what we wanted to do, with whomever we want to do it with. Over time, we close more doors and focus on those which are most important to us, until the inevitable narrowing at the end of...
Is there another way of looking @ this ?'



FRO:
'I believe your door analogy could work.
but for me,i think what one starts with is very few doors.doors one
isnt really aware of.we realise their form as we grow when we've
blundered through life enough to realise that some have closed.
their not being open is what gives them a form.
the lack of the opening gives it a shape.
but you go on then and if you're lucky and start trusting your
instinct,sort of surrender to it,then you have the guts to knock on
doors you're not even sure exist.they take form because you believe
they do!
after a little more of walking you forget about doors,about opening or
shutting them,you're free...you take what you will,there is nothing
that can be lost.the analogy of the doors is no longer
required.everything is permeable.
the point is not to attach too much meaning to the form of the door.'

Sit
Vikram Seth

'Sit, drink your coffee here; your work can wait awhile.
You're twenty-six, and still have some of life ahead.
No need for wit; just talk vacuities, and I'll
Reciprocate in kind, or laugh at you instead.

The world is too opaque, distressing and profound.
This twenty minutes' rendezvous will make my day:
To sit here in the sun, with grackles all around,
Staring with beady eyes, and you two feet away.'

Nice one,
1010.

to and fro.with no permission.

TO :



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June 30,2008.
I always believed in serpendity and coincindences ...some of my senstive moments in my life have been great coincidences I think these episodes have been happening to all of us and we always used to feel "It couldn't be just coincidence."

I was wondering are these events sheer coincidence or because of our mental telepathy or psychic stirrings?


Rational
I feel there are two features of coincidences not well known among us.First,we tend to overlook the powerful reinforcement of coincidences, both waking and in dreams, in our memories. Non-coincidental events do not register in our memories with nearly the same intensity.
Second, we fail to realize the extent to which highly improbable events occur daily to everyone. It is not possible to estimate all the probabilities of many paired events that occur in our daily lives.We often tend to assign coincidences a lesser probability than they deserve.

Reason
Our brains are fantastic pattern recognition engines, a characteristic which is highly useful for learning, but it does cause the brain to lend excessive importance to unremarkable events. Considering how many words, names,people and ideas a person is exposed to in any given day and we sometimes encounter the same information again within a short time. When that occasional intersection occurs, the brain promotes the information because the two instances make up the beginnings of a sequence. What we fail to notice is the hundreds or thousands of pieces of information which aren't repeated, because they do not conform to an interesting pattern.

Coincidences themselves are usually just an artifact of perception. We tend to underestimate the probability of coinciding events, so our expectations are at odds with reality. And non-coincidental events do not grab our attention with anywhere near the same intensity, because coincidences are patterns, and the brain actually stimulates us for successfully detecting patterns… hence their inflated value. In short, patterns are habit-forming.

Logical

Proablity says in a random selection of twenty-three persons there is a 50 percent chance that at least two of them celebrate the same birthdate.
The calculation is straightforward. First find the probability that everyone in a group of people have different birthdates (X) and then subtract this fraction from one to obtain the probability of at least one common birthdate in the group (P), P = 1 - X. Probabilities range from 0 to 1, or may be expressed as 0 to 100%. For no coincident birthdates a second person has a choice of 364 days, a third person 363 days, and the nth person 366 - n days. So the probability for all different birthdates becomes
365!
--------------------- = Xn
(365-n)!*(365^n)

With its factorials the last equality is not especially useful unless one possesses the capability of handling very large numbers.When n = 23, one finds X = 0.493 and P = 0.507. This shows that the probability of at least two people sharing a common birthdate rises slowly, at first passing just less than 12% probability with ten people, rising through 50% probability corresponding to twenty-three people,reaching 90% probability in a group of forty-one people. This means that on the average, out of ten random groups of forty-one persons, in nine of them at least two persons will celebrate identical birthdates. No mysterious forces are needed to explain this coincidence.

Experimental

In a experiment of asking people what was more likely from a lotto draw (6 numbers 'randomly' drawn from 40):
1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6
or
4, 13, 18, 23, 31, 37 (or any arbitrary non-sequential set)

Invariably they went for the second option (unless they already understood the concept or were second guessing their 'answer')
A summation of the reasoning was along the lines of "I'd remember if those numbers came out, but they never have"
how often do you look at strangers who were same dress or same car as yours on the road? You always notice it.



More to write.

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FRO:
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July 1,2008.
your articulation is impressive.
possibly that is what i struggle with as well...i mean the fight
always seems to be building the language which can allow me to
communicate what i can sense.
i have ended up building multiple vocabularies to only a little beyond
the natal stage unfortunately.hell,but the effort is on,and is
sometimes so deceptive it feels like I'm actally doing nothing at all.
lol...
anyway,yes, i believe we choose to give importance to only the
coincidences that appeal to our present state of mind.part of what i
found vexing earlier because i knew there was a lot happening,many
signs,many entry points open which i could not see because i possibly
hadn't reached a conclusion of thought on some other subject.
this is what some film makers do while making films as well...
as in for example if the indian music composers like an a r rehman did
not copy from western classical music,or an anu malik from popular
western music,then there would very be very few chances that an
indian public would be able to get an entry to tthe new sound. you
can't just give them the concentrated sound and expect them to give it
a listening.you get it to sound like from their context and then they
can start digesting it.some might even take it ahead and trace the
particular sound to its source. most just wait for more from their
identified sources of kitsch.
but all of this bridge making is important.we have one life,and not
many people have the luxury of exposing themselves to other
contexts.so cheers to anu malik!

so with co incidence,i think we actually pile in a lot of data
floating in the intertext and when it falls into our direct context we
draw personal connections and claim for example that we are haunted by
a word we happened to come across just the other day,we see it on
billboards,in ads,on TV,everywhere. truth is it's always been there.
like the tao idea that all the solutions are as clear as the problem
and as available.



this isn't complete,will write soon.
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